Procrastination is a great friend/enemy of mine. I can always find something to be doing other than writing. I have a fear of writing, sometimes it stops me saying exactly what I want. I wonder how personal I should get? How much I should reveal? I know everyone has their demons, their personal history and I often deliberate with how honest I should be. How honest should anyone be?
Worries about what people will think, who will read it and what their perceptions may be? To say I don’t care or wouldn’t care isn’t true. However I definitely don’t care as much as I once would of. Various people, experiences and words over the years have certainly made me a little more cautious, hesitant and distrustful than I probably should be in various aspects of life. Time to make a change.
Life is short, there’s plenty time to fret, but do I really want to spend half my life pondering the what if? Should I really not do something I enjoy because someone might laugh, or someone I haven’t seen for a couple of decades might become aware of it? No.
I wondered if it was just me that struggled with writing concerns so asked around a bit. Here are just a few of the comments I received from fellow bloggers. Huge thanks to all of these lovely people for being so honest with me. Turns out everyone has their fears, it’s how we move on and conquer them that matters.
“I was worried that I was putting myself out there and I would be judged! I realised though in life whether you put yourself out there in a public forum such as blogging or not you will get judged. I realised that the problem wasn’t others judging me – something I cannot control. It fact the problem was how I let it bother me. We are all judged daily but we are who we are and we should embrace that!” Soph-obsessed, Manchester
“I was so worried that people would read my blog and wonder what the hell I was doing and talking about. I share some very personal content and I still have the same fear before pressing publish now, 18 months later!” A Mum Track Mind, Lancashire
“I worry so much about what people think about what they read on my blog I also worry about people that don’t get it … but I do it because I enjoy it and that’s all that matters. If it’s a really personal post I will sit it in my drafts until I’m ready to post it, but people have a choice and if they don’t want to read my blog they don’t have to. Opinions make the world go round and it wouldn’t do for us all to be the same and that’s what I stay mindful of.” Crazy Family Story, Leicester
“I was worried about judgement as I talk about birth trauma, mental health and PTSD. I worried about triggering people who have gone through it, but I also worried about people not understanding, judging or trolling me. It’s hard to open yourself up to others so sharing personal details was something I stumbled over.” Welsh Mum, Cardiff
“Worried that I’ll offend someone somewhere which came after I worried about people reading it, people who know me reading it, people who don’t know me reading it!!! It’s nerve racking hitting the publish button but worth it. I still worry I’ll offend, I still worry “what mammy will say” and I worry that absolutely no one will read it or even bother to click that link!” Geraldine Renton, Galway
What’s the fear that keeps you from writing?